Important points to save Relationships:

Important points to save Relationships

Life is like a journey full of positives and negatives sweet and sour experiences like a roller coaster ride full of ups and downs. Your every decision makes huge impact on not only in your life but also in the lives of people associated with you. Ultimately, people who loved us is matters. Success and failure always depends, you will see how things moves on, and altogether everything will have changed. Some incidence happens and we get into mindset of “There are no values of commitments and promises yet we portray that we are so much concern about these things” It is not correct way of thinking. In this World we left behind so many things and adopted things in a customized manner due to circumstances, situations, your internal struggles. Every one of us expect that people who are important to us will understand our struggles but the fact of the matter is that we forget that other person is also facing his/her own struggles.

Everyone has their own way of thinking and free to move their lives in the direction in which they want to lead it. We are so much concerned and involved with small things in life due to which we are uncomfortable to break the things as they are.  It’s the harsh reality of life. In this life span we come across lot of people some of them stick to you for life and some gives you lessons for life.  We fall into arguments which never exists, we fight on the matters which are never related to us, we feel negative but didn’t show our feelings to other person and fill with full of hate and hurt which leads us to take decisions which we never want to take in life.

Yes, money is very important for living but more than money are the people who are more important because you might have money if you lost but didn’t have opportunity to take back people who left you due to some misunderstandings. We are living in a society where people are so much selfish and full of fears while making commitments which is wrong for any relationship it is true for both people who are into relationship and try to understand each other. Things which requires time we usually do all that stuffs in bit hurry and where we focus on resolving issues which are created once you took decision which you don’t want to take but might be due to situation and people who all are important to you get involve to take those decisions.

We Indians have habit of blaming people, situation, circumstances and even God but what we miss is ourselves who is the cause of the situation. On certain issues there is only black and white decisions we can’t put things in grey section. Maximum time we focus on that grey section to balance life but in that balancing act you knowing or unknowingly hurt people who care about you the most.

We start things with purpose and focused to achieve that purpose that purpose might be love, affection, stay together etc, and most funny part is if a very minute hurdle comes in we get frightened and want to run away from the situation as much as possible and in this process we hurt the other person to whom we love most. But life has its own way of teaching, it put you again and again in the similar situation until you won’t able to deal with such ones. We are human beings we not only made mistakes we do blunders but still if there is any scope of improvement you see then we need to keep our faith back and try to make things work. Why am I saying all this thing today is because people have habit of blaming others in such a way they show that they are blaming themselves all the times but they didn’t realize by doing such things they affecting the lives of the people who love them. By doing such things what people lose is the credibility, confidence, trustworthiness initially which leads to more difference and disputes and ultimately quieting.

Today society lacks on things like patience, understanding others point of view, love and affection towards people who cares for you. What we are focusing on is the materialistic life, temporary feelings. Due to easy access of internet we live in a virtual world and made ourselves isolated by disconnecting with people in real as a result what we becoming is more aggressive, impatience, depressed, self-obsessed & isolated. We are degrading our values to stay in our own made fantasy cocoon. As a result, we make decisions on which we regret in future.

We humans have habit of living in past and judging people as per our past experiences or by the mistakes they do. But what is correct approach being to overlook some of the differences and give opportunity to other person If they want to change or correct the things which might get destroyed.

There are a lot of mythologies, ideologies, literature, books, articles, journals etc is available all says one thing in common i.e.  “To live happy and peaceful life with people who loved you might be you fight with them, times when they might hurt you and sometimes people do something which you never expect then to do or say but what is most important here in such situations if you find that person realized his/her mistake than definitely you should give them a chance to make things works as they are in normal way”. But humans have tendency to enjoy feeling of self-pity, sympathy, feel weaken, broken, feel distrust, depressed and get detected with all those things and people once who matters you most. We can’t live in fear, uncertainties, regret, risk, compromises and things which are not matching our ethics, values and principles. But here again I want to say you all if anyone hurts you due to any of this points by their words or action and realized that they done wrong to you want to correct what they have messed up so at least give them a fair chance to do so. By doing this you surely get back what you think you lost.

Here are few suggestions in point format to overcome such disturbing situations and enjoy peaceful life:

1.       The moment you think of quitting, thought about why you started.

2.       Don’t be in hurry to make commitment which you don’t able to keep in future.

3.       Have patience everything will fall according to you only if you are true to yourself.

4.       Have faith in God.

5.       Plan, Act, Correct and Control over your unwanted thoughts and actions.

6.       Focus on happiness of not only self but also about people who cares for you specially the loved ones.

7.       Stay focused on one thing at a time.

8.       Life is in transition mode all the time because every time you make a decision your life changes.

9.       Forgive mistakes in relationships have faith and trust in other person as the way you have in them prior to the mistakes.

10.   If you are not sure of anything say it loud and clear.

11.   Whatever it is i.e. job, business, love, relationship anything has trust and confidence in your loved ones.

12.   Anger destroys everything, we say so many things which we never ever mean to say or act as per that but unknowingly you hurt the other person so bad that they don’t even want to look back in a same way as they use to so.

13.   Don’t focus on negative people around you might be anyone from your family, friend or relatives or any acquaintances.

These points look like very easy and known to everyone but when it comes to implement in our own lives we never ever follow them.

I ask you all if someone who is very important to you breaks your trust in some or the other way and later realized that they have done which they even never want to do, after realizing if they want to reconcile and wanting to make things normal as they are. Shall we give them a chance or not!