How to handle Negativity in this Pandemic:

How to handle Negativity in this Pandemic

These days, we are breathing in the state of affairs which we all are not at all ready mentally, emotionally, financially, personally & professionally. Covid 19 changed whole perspective of living life on planet Earth.  As we all are in Quarantine since last few months and now everyone is under pressure to make a mark of endurance. There is a saying “Survival of the fittest” now this is tricky as far as human behavior is concern, if anything happen; our basic reaction is to attract our energy  towards pessimistic thoughts  and not on optimistic one in any situation and we giving up on people & relationships which actually matters in life and running for acquisitive attraction.

There is no hesitation in saying that this  pandemic condition is an extraordinary situation which comes after 100 years this will for sure makes radical  impacts on our lives in negative ways, many of us will die for sure with his and the reason is  most people on this whole World gets affected badly with their health, relationships, finances etc. Yet this is control only when we able to develop vaccine and till that time we have to keep our mental immunity high, because then only you enjoy life in such challenging situation & with vaccine influx life gets back to regular as we are living before this deadly disease.

We astray people, businesses, jobs, our savings everything, most importantly our relationships with people as we all are in the stress many of us lose self-confidence because of such scenario. We put in extra efforts to knob various problems which once not at all a crisis. We are running against the odds now. Cases of Covid19 are increasing day-by-day it’s getting tougher to survive yet we are trying to overcome with the consequences of this virus on our lives.  

Keeping expectations are good but we need to understand this every expectation get fulfilled once the time is right, till that time we have to keep faith and trust in our near and dear ones. Everyone is running behind money and in present situation the normal rotation of money is not available which leads to fear, lack of confidence and distrust but is it right way of thinking! No never.

“Let me tell you the harsh reality, this situation of this pandemic is going to more worst in coming months, so don’t loss hope and keep your focus and believes in each other this is the only way out. Definitely, this condition is temporary but we all don’t know that how long this temporary situation will going to normalize.”

We are emotional and this days we get hurt very often from people whom we never want to get hurt, Understand one thing here, even they too never want to hurt you but as the time is not favorable in any way shit happens sometimes. Solution for this is give time to yourself and people associated with you.

Today your health is most important everything else is secondary. This uncertainty brings so many fears in mind, distrusts, risk, depression, negativity, panic, failures and anxieties this adverse situation, we fight back this by courage, trust, faith, hope and love. Only thing we need to understand is:

“If you lost Money, You lost Nothing,

 If you lost Health, You lost Something,

If you lost Character, You lost Everything.”

 Hence, as stated above if you not lost Character then every other thing can regain and not only for survival but in profusion every single promise is delivered. You just have to loosen up you’re the rope of expectations from people, life you dreamed off, have “trust” that your every expectation will get respect and is going to fulfill in the way you wanted and this will only possible if we  stick together this will create wonders together in life.

Further, here are most important 3 points through which anyone can remove any kind of negativity especially now from anyone’s life. So let’s go through them in detail:

1.       Have Patience, don’t react to people or situation:

In this present stressful scenario, we must avoid arguments as much as possible; try to understand each other’s mental situation and frustration through which one is going through. Don’t compare yourself with others and keep your expectation low for a time being as the time is not favorable for even survival. People do not understand this and if any situation which doesn’t suit them arises they try to run away and not facing it. So have trust on people whom we call and include in our family.

Yet, be graceful and if someone don’t want to see you or don’t want to stay with you never force them if they meant for you they stay despite of any situation. Biggest trouble is that we lost patience in ourselves now because of pandemic frustration and we start reacting on our relationships, try to avoid it because there is no option called “giving up” for such a temporary situation.

 2.       Take care of people who loves you and vice versa:

What we are doing in this panic situation is we lose our frustration on our loved ones and keep them hurting unknowingly, I know you never want to hurt them but unconsciously it happens as we are so much attached and carefree for our loved ones that we have confidence that in any situation they will never leave us even if we hurt them then unknowingly.

But here is the key that our loved ones too are humans and have their own problems and panics so better help them to handle their problems without adding your frustration to it, else situation will be worst and then you only try to save things but you feel like you already lost. Don’t get into all that just love them unconditionally and let the fate decides keep ray of hope alive that by speaking truth and accepting the faults can save so many misunderstanding and give you peace of mind.

3.        Stop Over thinking and Over analyzing things:

Over thinking and over analysis kills any relationship, in this Coronavirus Pandemic we all have so much of time to think over things and even if we are working. We over analyzing things & situations which are not there at present moment. Stop doing that from immediate effect else you will lose everything and you get stuck.

And if, such situation arises ask for forgiveness to them & return everything to normal. Being regretful is not an issue if you loves the person and if someone hurts you then it’s your responsibility as well to forget what had happened and try to understand they not meant hurt you and if they feel guilt for that then you have to show up courage to forgive them as we all are one, this happens due to over thinking and analysis leads to possessiveness and obsession. So divert your mind in other work and have conviction in people around you.

These are the most important points we need to adopt in our daily lives. Have faith in God and believe whatever you started in your life i.e. its business, job, relationship etc. Everything needs time, you have to nourish it, nurture it and have that belief that yes we together can come out of any situation and this will give you inner peace and unconditional love.

Hope this will help you to get better, save your relationships, job or business everything which you want to save. You have to ignite your will with positive approach towards everything. If you have any experience to share so please comment in the comment box.

Sales Strategy for Telesales Professionals:

Now a day’s “Tele-sales” (Sales over telephone) is very admired and effective stream of doing sales. We never remove the classic sales process of meeting prospects and clients in person. Though, we have various types of sales like Retail sales, B2B sales, Industrial sales, Corporate sales etc.  In these entire types one thing is common i.e. “YOU”.

For effective in sales you need to understand and learn the techniques of sales. Sales profession is not cup of tea of everyone. People do have lots of myths about this respected profession.

This piece of writing is fully focused on how to do telephonic sales or telesales effectively. Below are the findings based on my research & experience, we present you the crux of all theories and experiments done in different types of studies to convert your sales call into revenue.

If you follow this strategy in your sales call, I assure you that you end up the call by closing sales and build a strong professional relationship with your client. So let’s glimpse them in detail:

Knowing about your company and its products and services is the foundation of your sales call, a good sales person always knows about his/her company and the product they are selling. If you don’t know these two things you will never able to do sales in any type of format i.e. direct sales, B@B sales, corporate sales or Telesales! If you are new to this profession ask your managers to give full inputs related to company and its products on continuous basis.

You should know about your strengths and weaknesses so that you can able to offer best available solution to clients/customers. Sales profession requires a lot of study and focus like you have to update your knowledge about current affairs and all sort of different topics which people love to hear.

A good sales professional always have different strategies at one given point of time because sales is not an easy profession as it has to deal with humans all the time and understanding human behavior is an art which one can able to learn and acquire expertise with experience only.

No two humans are similar in nature, so as a good tele sales executive what we have filter very first is “is this prospect is my target audience or not” Once you get the hint just grab the opportunity to listen then as the conversation moves on.

Be spontaneous in every call, leave customer with some though that might be profit, money, benefits, high self-worth etc. Analyze your calls and find the pattern, trend and tone you used and carry out on various customers. Always upgrade and learn from your previous calls and by observing your seniors calling.

If you are fresher better follow the script provided by the company and guidance provided by your immediate superiors, once you earn some experience in calling they you can improvise your own script while dealing with different types of customers. We taught about the things we need to do while talking or facing any client or customer, but a good sales professional knows the things which one needs to avoid while dealing with clients/customers.

Sales job is a job of rejection and handling rejections is an art in which a smart sales professional is expert, sales job calls for huge courage.  Understand one thing mere shouting is not sales you have to use voice modulations and other soft-skills to attract client’s attention on what you are saying to them.

You have to keep your morale very high and have self-confidence that you can talk to all kind of people keeping in mind the objective you want to achieve through that particular call. "Confidence is a key to convert lead into sales”.

You acquire confidence by listening clients carefully; understand their requirements by asking relevant questions to know their psychology, buying behavior so on. This is possible only if you able to develop rapport with client & makes him/her to open up with you. We as sales professional have to work on our strategies on regular basis to get the best out of every lead.

Sales in just a number game, we have to create strong sales funnel and it is possible only with your capacity of doing cold calls. “Example x numbers of cold calls gives x numbers of prospects, there is x numbers of converting x leads into x number of clients”.

A Strong follow-up is very critical for sales professional, follow ups gives you an opportunity to convert your leads into clients and further you ask for references from them which again leads to successful sales. So just try to go to that extra mile and do one extra call daily, give extra feel good factor to your hot prospects this leads you to overcome your own fears.

Now, make your Matrix of Cold calls, Follow ups, Sales Closed, References on daily basis.  Check your objection handling per call, how many new opportunities you created per day which leads to your follow-up calls per day.

{Here is tip for you all; Develop habit of giving courtesy calls to your clients and prospects this habit help you to quickly close sales.}

For fresher’s, it’s tough to ask for money from clients to subscribe or to buy our services type of words to clients. Practice habits of being precise with your words discuss on various topics with clients but keep focus on your purpose of call to them bring back client’s discussion towards your products or services again and again.

 Always be polite, assertive and spontaneous; few times use this strategy of being harsh on clients by doing this you play with psychology of clients which hit their emotional quotient it helps in closing sales. Every new call is a new learning every sales professional.

In this new pandemic called Coronavirus every business is now shifting on digital format and through telephones. This increases demand of telesales executives in every business model now. There is no doubt that this pandemic has stuck lives of every person  all over the world, but this adverse situation brings new avenues to shift our mind sets to new style of working and redefine humanity as whole.

Hope this article helps you to understand the strategy to convert sales over telephone and being purposeful in life. If you want to add your experience or any suggestions over this topic your comments are welcome.

Positive side of Coronavirus Pandemic:

Positive side of Coronavirus Pandemic

Coronavirus Pandemic gives reason to humanity to review and reconnect with not only with your loved ones but also gives you an opportunity to build a new relationship with nature by resetting your inner-self.

There is no doubt that this pandemic hampers human race so badly, that experts thinks we take years to overcome from this. It might be possible but what my gut instinct says yes it takes a year or two to become normal once scientists and doctors able to invent medicine for this non-curable disease.

We all know the side effects of this Wuhan Virus very well, thanks to media houses all over the world. Yes, there is uncertainty and fear in the society, but something magical and positive is also happening simultaneously. 

Let’s look out the positive things happened due to this Pandemic:

We all use to make hue and cry about time, every one of us so busy that we don’t get time for our family and for ourselves. Lockdown gives you 21 days and now almost confirm of 15 days extension on the same. You can do lots of positive things during this interlude but as per human physiology what we like is entertainment mostly negative. I ask you all to don’t fall in trap of news channels and social media during this phase.

Connect with people in real life virtually and how one can do this! One talk to people (family, friends, relatives, acquaintances) over phone calls and try to make this conversations productive by not involve in gossiping or rumors.

Two spend quality time with your family try to bring creativity to surface by initiating activities like meditation, making drawing & crafts, cooking food, etc help us to develop strong relationship with our loved ones.

Three it is most important try to listen people rather speaking, judging and proving your point of view.

Four learn people skill read about human psychology, philosophies to develop better understanding about human beings.

Five learn patience which key to survival and success of this lock down.

All these activities need huge courage, which is not cup of tea for everyone. We can pass on various unnecessary arguments and fights just by smiling and keep ourselves clam. These will give us hope and self-confidence to overcome our fears and uncertainties.

Now, this is real surprise as we are seeing how nature re-balancing itself without humans. Rivers, seas and oceans gets their beauty back pollution reduced at remarkable levels. Wild life again coming back on track and all this is happening without our involvement. We got time to spend with our loved ones. Power, Money, Fame etc is of no use what's important is small things which we ignores. Now, clear your mess not only physical but mental and reconstruct your life purposes by aligning it with nature. Learn etiquette's of following rules of nature if you want to enjoy life.

Ironically, we humans thinks that we can control everything and due to this illusion we get lockdown ourselves today by creating this pandemic. Keep aside your hidden motives, selfishness, negative mindset of harassing others.  Build bond with your roots by reading good books and literature's start following good values and culture in family. Avoid the thoughts that you feel only you knows and handle everything, what you say is always right etc. Try to understand others view points, develop and practice to have learning attitude “very easy to say but really it requires guts to fallow the same”.

We think that we stuck in our houses yes its true but rather seeing it like this we should focus on how to fight against these odds. By following above points we can surely able to come out of this adverse situation together.

 Lockdown, Quarantine, Isolation whatever name we give but it’s time to inculcate our mind, energy and thoughts by cooperating with nature this is only best way to fight with this pandemic called Coronavirus and ultimately accomplish peace of mind and love which we was searching in money, power and possessions, but today we got to know we can have peace of mind and love only by spreading love, affection, kindness, care with integrity, selflessly not only to each other but everything we associate in this world.  

Be Optimistic and keep your hope alive and spread good deeds to get back the same. Take care and stay safe wherever you are now, enjoy the moment you are into because this time will not come again in your lives.

What to do while Quarantine due to Coronavirus:

What to do while Quarantine due to Coronavirus

We all know the seriousness of Coronavirus nowadays and its impact on our lives. Almost, whole World is lock-down these days. Doctors and Scientists are hassled to discover medicine for such a dangerous virus developed by China.

But this piece of writing is not on how Coronavirus impacts on our lives we all are aware about that and following necessary guidance  issued by Government from time to time. We are going to talk about how we can spend our time in most productive way in this lock-down so that we can feel a sense of satisfaction and learn new things about life.

Our goal is to stay in peace and happiness this only is possible if we make our deep connection with nature, this lock-down provides us an opportunity to spend our time with ourselves and find meaning to our lives. Now, here is a question that how we can find our life purpose and how we feel sense of satisfaction in such a scenario!

Let’s have a look over this question and try to find solution to that. Today we all stuck at our homes though, we have a lot of time to find ourselves and work on various skills and gain knowledge not only about our career, job or business, but also more curious to find knowledge and made connection with universe with help of spirituality. Let’s dig it little deeper:

1.       Have a day plan on daily basis:

We are considering this Quarantine as holidays and to some extend it is true but here we have to save ourselves and hence we stuck in our houses so far. We do have an opportunity here to work and to bring the best version of ourselves. To get this result we need to follow a routine with a day plan and spend time on working on our skills.

2.       Meditate, pray & exercise daily:

It is known to all of us but we become so lazy we didn’t work out; when it comes to give knowledge over it we drain it over others. So no further details just ask you all to begin with little steps in this direction to get amazing results by doing meditation, exercise and prayers daily.

3.       Be positive that this phase will also move on:

Today, social media and almost every news channel is busy in giving you lots of information which develops fear in minds that we start believing on the rumors and fake news created by them. Stay away from all these mode of information & don’t involve in it all time. It’s just a phase which will also be passing on if we follow necessary guidelines provided by government. Believe me their is always an opportunity in adversity and uncertainty, so think positive and open to start something new after this Coronavirus pedantic.  

4.       Smile a lot & believe in God:

Smile gives you positivity and hence as we are getting frustrated because of this lock-down and many people are quarantine and isolated that they don’t have anyone to talk with, in such a scenario where everything is against us, to stay positive one need to do two things one keep smiling and two have full faith in God and connect yourself with universe through meditation.

5.       Spend quality time with family:

This is very important thing which we are doing now, but to bring quality discussions with in family is important don’t get isolated with your mobiles and internet or with TV. Keep aside all this things and have real discussions which develop strong bonding with each other and nurture our relationships. Things you can do like cooking food together then have your meals together, play some indoor games with family, pray together to almighty, listen good music, do exercise, yoga or dance with family it keeps you fit physically and mentally etc.

6.       Develop habit of reading good literature:

It is very difficult thing but to grow our minds we need to read good literature and books, Reading requires courage, courage to spend time with books which calls for concentration. We are living in the time of TikTok & WhatsApp where we lost our patience level which hampers our mind at large. So save your mind and create something creative by using this quality time which will never be coming back.

7.       Think about logic's and be rational in thoughts:

In this Quarantine or lock-down we have to develop our rational things don’t get involve in rumors, gossips or any kind of religious non sense. Have self-confidence that your rational thoughts will help not only you but people associated with you in such a way that their life may affected in positive way or in negative way and it all depends on you on haw you can lead your thoughts to make an impact on others.

8.       Help others who are near to you:

Give yourself reason that build faith in you and other that humanity is still alive in the planet earth. It only is possible if you start an act of kindness for the needy. It doesn’t matter how big the act what matters is how much humanity is inside that act of kindness. To do this you don’t need to go outside your houses, you are already doing act of kindness by isolating yourselves from outer world at the moment. Just follow the instructions and guidelines issues by government and authorities and support not only society but make your contribution to save yourselves.

Above we have seen the things which one should to do now have some light over things which we need to avoid excess usage:

1.        Social media

2.       Television & specially news channels

3.       Mobile usage

4.       Poking nose in others life

5.       Going outside house for a while

6.       Don’t get panicked by the rumors

7.       Don’t expect  too much not only from others but from self

8.       Don’t be over-confident

9.       Don’t be too much pushy

10.   Don’t lose hope in any situation

Hope these points will help you to recognize that how much big responsibility every one of us have in such a dangerous situation which we humans are facing today. We have to keep aside politics, and make efforts with humanity to bring life to normal. Once everything back to normal, then we will take corrective measures over the notorious people and countries who are the real cause of such a situation.

Share your Quarantine experiences and let be acquainted with others and learn from your inputs too. Best wishes to all on fight against Coronavirus.

How to find job in Abroad:

How to find job in Abroad

Coming directly to the point on how anyone can find a suitable job anywhere in the world! Here in this article you will find a systematic and easy approaches to find jobs in countries like USA, Australia, Canada, Dubai, GCC, Denmark, Netherlands and so on, there are lots of countries where people searching jobs. Below are the easy yet most effective ways one can find their dream job anywhere in abroad. Also, there is a lot of things to taken care off while searching jobs in abroad. So let’s begin the detail discussion:

1.       Create  Action plan & Strategies:

Firstly, make a strategic plan to get desired outcome and how you make this plan take below points into consideration:

a.       Decide for how long you want to go to any country (Short term or Long term).

b.      Do Research about countries where you are planning to move.

c.       Make list of your skill sets which you think you are good at.

d.      Find out any friends, relatives or acquaintance you have in any country and talk to them.

e.      Gather more information about job scenario in foreign through internet.

2.       Have valid Passport:

You need to have a valid passport. If you don’t have so you can apply online as it is very easy to get your passport. Many people depend on the employers for passport as well but you need to know that nominal charges are there for applying for passport. How you can apply for passport online https://portal2.passportindia.gov.in/AppOnlineProject/online/procFormSubOnl

3.       Choose Countries:

People get stuck on how to find a suitable country so here is the answer:

a.       Make list of as many countries where you are planning to move.

b.      Do research on job market in those countries.

c.       Check Environmental, political, social economic conditions and their immigration policies. You can gather all information through internet.

d.      Compare all these factors with your home country.

e.      You will find the best suitable country option in this process.

For example If you like cold places you can plan for Canada, if you like climate like India so you can opt for Australia. Apart from this two countries if you think you have good technical skills so you may go for Dubai, Saudi Arabia, GCC countries. For IT, Engineers and Top Management executives USA is an option, Denmark, Netherlands and Ireland are the countries where people from medical background do have good opportunities and so on. This is how you can do your own detail research about your options and decide the best one to go ahead.

4.       CV & Cover letter as per country and company’s requirement:

CV and Cover letter is an entry ticket for the interview, there are different types of CV formats for fresher’s, professional and for C level executives. Click here to get various types of CV format https://www.indeed.com/career-advice/resumes-cover-letters/cv-format-guide

While writing CV keeps in mind give/mention full details of your job responsibilities the reason for this is in every country designation and roles are different it’s not similar to Indian companies. It’s better to describe your roles and responsibilities point wise.

 An interesting CV needs an interesting cover letter. Cover letter is nothing but the summary of your professional and personal life. Be selective as keywords play a very important role in your cover letter and CV.  Here are few sample cover letter https://resumegenius.com/cover-letter-examples

5.       Register your profile on various Government job Banks:

Every country has their job banks where people from other countries have to register their profile and if they have any vacancies the employer’s give preference to the profile which is register with their job banks. Countries like Canada, Australia, and Dubai etc have their job banks.

6.       Create your profile on various job portals of particular country:

Like in India we do get register our profile on various job portals likewise if you are looking opportunities in a particular country then you have to register your profile along with your updated resume on those countries job portals. Now, the first question comes in mind is how to find job portals of any particular country! So below is the process:

Example if we look for Canada then you have to go to Google Canada ( www.google.ca) likewise for every country Google have their own extension Ex: Australia (.au), United Arab Emirates (.ae), Denmark (.dk), Ireland (.ie) , Netherlands (.nl) etc.

Just open Google of that particular country and register your profile with updated resume on various local job portals.

7.       Use Social Media:

We are living in the era of social media where everything is available on our figure tip. Be active on various professional web portals like LinkedIn and get connected with various professionals. Here you have two ways to do that one you can get connects with your specific industry professionals and seniors and second you can connect with any professional and increase you network. Both ways are important and again to make most of this networking sites you have to do it keeping in mind your aim which you want to meet through those connection building.

8.       Know about Recruitment Process:

As we all know every company have their own unique recruitment process in a same way different countries do have their own defined guidelines to their companies while hiring any human resource from outside their country. In many countries companies have to prove to their government on why they want to hire any human resource outside their country. Now here you roles and responsibilities plays a crucial role that’s why we have to explain it in details in our resume or CV.

Many English-speaking countries IELTS/TOEFL/PTE/GRE/GMAT is mandatory to clear. Check in which country which examination in required then appear and clear it accordingly. These exams are pretty costly and hence it’s suggested to prepare oneself before appearing for the same. There are lots of tutorials and information available on internet for this exam preparation.

9.       Do your own Research about Sectors & Companies of your Interest:

As we do research and collect information of our industry or sector while planning to switch a job, in same way we have to look macro picture of the country economy not only on job perspective but also check on health, security etc. Don’t just relay on the information provided by your consultant do your own research and then take an informed decision.

10.   Find and use References (if any):

References plays a very vital role, try to find any connection and references in those countries where you are planning to settle down and don’t feel shy for asking help from them.

11.   Maintain Sufficient Fund in Bank Account:

This is important for people who are applying for PR visa and even if you are looking for work visa or any other visa try to keep up adequate amount for your backup. Be a good negotiator when it is of work visa.

For Work Visa negotiate:

i.                     On  your Tickets and Accommodation

ii.                   On to take your family along with you

iii.                  On leaves & Travelling policy

iv.                 On Visa process ( ask employer to do it)

v.                   On contact and terms and conditions

NOTE: No Employer will ask for money to give you job, never ask to surrender you Passport for contractual period, never give you job offer without interview. If someone asks you to do so then consider them a fraud and don’t get into their trap.

Important points to remember:

1.       Never Ever surrender your Passport to any employer, consultancies or anyone.

2.       Never use paid services of recruitment consultancies.

3.       Check genuineness of employers.

4.       Don’t share your Credit or Debit card details with any employers.

5.       Don’t fall into traps of shortcuts: Getting job is a time-consuming process.

6.       Take everything in writing don’t trust on verbal commitments.

7.       Never surrender any of your original documents.

8.       Don’t fall into greed stay calm and focused.

9.       Negotiate with full swing on salary, visa process, accommodation etc.

10.   Believe on your gut instinct.

Hope these points will help you in making decision if you plan to find a job in abroad to start new life.

Important points to save Relationships:

Important points to save Relationships

Life is like a journey full of positives and negatives sweet and sour experiences like a roller coaster ride full of ups and downs. Your every decision makes huge impact on not only in your life but also in the lives of people associated with you. Ultimately, people who loved us is matters. Success and failure always depends, you will see how things moves on, and altogether everything will have changed. Some incidence happens and we get into mindset of “There are no values of commitments and promises yet we portray that we are so much concern about these things” It is not correct way of thinking. In this World we left behind so many things and adopted things in a customized manner due to circumstances, situations, your internal struggles. Every one of us expect that people who are important to us will understand our struggles but the fact of the matter is that we forget that other person is also facing his/her own struggles.

Everyone has their own way of thinking and free to move their lives in the direction in which they want to lead it. We are so much concerned and involved with small things in life due to which we are uncomfortable to break the things as they are.  It’s the harsh reality of life. In this life span we come across lot of people some of them stick to you for life and some gives you lessons for life.  We fall into arguments which never exists, we fight on the matters which are never related to us, we feel negative but didn’t show our feelings to other person and fill with full of hate and hurt which leads us to take decisions which we never want to take in life.

Yes, money is very important for living but more than money are the people who are more important because you might have money if you lost but didn’t have opportunity to take back people who left you due to some misunderstandings. We are living in a society where people are so much selfish and full of fears while making commitments which is wrong for any relationship it is true for both people who are into relationship and try to understand each other. Things which requires time we usually do all that stuffs in bit hurry and where we focus on resolving issues which are created once you took decision which you don’t want to take but might be due to situation and people who all are important to you get involve to take those decisions.

We Indians have habit of blaming people, situation, circumstances and even God but what we miss is ourselves who is the cause of the situation. On certain issues there is only black and white decisions we can’t put things in grey section. Maximum time we focus on that grey section to balance life but in that balancing act you knowing or unknowingly hurt people who care about you the most.

We start things with purpose and focused to achieve that purpose that purpose might be love, affection, stay together etc, and most funny part is if a very minute hurdle comes in we get frightened and want to run away from the situation as much as possible and in this process we hurt the other person to whom we love most. But life has its own way of teaching, it put you again and again in the similar situation until you won’t able to deal with such ones. We are human beings we not only made mistakes we do blunders but still if there is any scope of improvement you see then we need to keep our faith back and try to make things work. Why am I saying all this thing today is because people have habit of blaming others in such a way they show that they are blaming themselves all the times but they didn’t realize by doing such things they affecting the lives of the people who love them. By doing such things what people lose is the credibility, confidence, trustworthiness initially which leads to more difference and disputes and ultimately quieting.

Today society lacks on things like patience, understanding others point of view, love and affection towards people who cares for you. What we are focusing on is the materialistic life, temporary feelings. Due to easy access of internet we live in a virtual world and made ourselves isolated by disconnecting with people in real as a result what we becoming is more aggressive, impatience, depressed, self-obsessed & isolated. We are degrading our values to stay in our own made fantasy cocoon. As a result, we make decisions on which we regret in future.

We humans have habit of living in past and judging people as per our past experiences or by the mistakes they do. But what is correct approach being to overlook some of the differences and give opportunity to other person If they want to change or correct the things which might get destroyed.

There are a lot of mythologies, ideologies, literature, books, articles, journals etc is available all says one thing in common i.e.  “To live happy and peaceful life with people who loved you might be you fight with them, times when they might hurt you and sometimes people do something which you never expect then to do or say but what is most important here in such situations if you find that person realized his/her mistake than definitely you should give them a chance to make things works as they are in normal way”. But humans have tendency to enjoy feeling of self-pity, sympathy, feel weaken, broken, feel distrust, depressed and get detected with all those things and people once who matters you most. We can’t live in fear, uncertainties, regret, risk, compromises and things which are not matching our ethics, values and principles. But here again I want to say you all if anyone hurts you due to any of this points by their words or action and realized that they done wrong to you want to correct what they have messed up so at least give them a fair chance to do so. By doing this you surely get back what you think you lost.

Here are few suggestions in point format to overcome such disturbing situations and enjoy peaceful life:

1.       The moment you think of quitting, thought about why you started.

2.       Don’t be in hurry to make commitment which you don’t able to keep in future.

3.       Have patience everything will fall according to you only if you are true to yourself.

4.       Have faith in God.

5.       Plan, Act, Correct and Control over your unwanted thoughts and actions.

6.       Focus on happiness of not only self but also about people who cares for you specially the loved ones.

7.       Stay focused on one thing at a time.

8.       Life is in transition mode all the time because every time you make a decision your life changes.

9.       Forgive mistakes in relationships have faith and trust in other person as the way you have in them prior to the mistakes.

10.   If you are not sure of anything say it loud and clear.

11.   Whatever it is i.e. job, business, love, relationship anything has trust and confidence in your loved ones.

12.   Anger destroys everything, we say so many things which we never ever mean to say or act as per that but unknowingly you hurt the other person so bad that they don’t even want to look back in a same way as they use to so.

13.   Don’t focus on negative people around you might be anyone from your family, friend or relatives or any acquaintances.

These points look like very easy and known to everyone but when it comes to implement in our own lives we never ever follow them.

I ask you all if someone who is very important to you breaks your trust in some or the other way and later realized that they have done which they even never want to do, after realizing if they want to reconcile and wanting to make things normal as they are. Shall we give them a chance or not!