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| Important points to save Relationships |
Life is like a journey full of
positives and negatives sweet and sour experiences like a roller coaster ride
full of ups and downs. Your every decision makes huge impact on not only in
your life but also in the lives of people associated with you. Ultimately,
people who loved us is matters. Success and failure always depends, you will
see how things moves on, and altogether everything will have changed. Some
incidence happens and we get into mindset of “There are no values of
commitments and promises yet we portray that we are so much concern about these
things” It is not correct way of thinking. In this World we left behind so many
things and adopted things in a customized manner due to circumstances,
situations, your internal struggles. Every one of us expect that people who are
important to us will understand our struggles but the fact of the matter is
that we forget that other person is also facing his/her own struggles.
Everyone has their own way of
thinking and free to move their lives in the direction in which they want to
lead it. We are so much concerned and involved with small things in life due to
which we are uncomfortable to break the things as they are. It’s the harsh reality of life. In this life
span we come across lot of people some of them stick to you for life and some
gives you lessons for life. We fall into
arguments which never exists, we fight on the matters which are never related
to us, we feel negative but didn’t show our feelings to other person and fill
with full of hate and hurt which leads us to take decisions which we never want
to take in life.
Yes, money is very important for
living but more than money are the people who are more important because you
might have money if you lost but didn’t have opportunity to take back people
who left you due to some misunderstandings. We are living in a society where
people are so much selfish and full of fears while making commitments
which is wrong for any relationship it is true for both people who are into
relationship and try to understand each other. Things which requires time we usually do all that stuffs in bit hurry
and where we focus on resolving issues which are created once you took decision
which you don’t want to take but might be due to situation and people who all
are important to you get involve to take those decisions.
We Indians have habit of blaming people,
situation, circumstances and even God but what we miss is ourselves who is the
cause of the situation. On certain issues there is only black and white
decisions we can’t put things in grey section. Maximum time we focus on that
grey section to balance life but in that balancing act you knowing or
unknowingly hurt people who care about you the most.
We start things with purpose and
focused to achieve that purpose that purpose might be love, affection, stay
together etc, and most funny part is if a very minute hurdle comes in we
get frightened and want to run away from the situation as much as possible and
in this process we hurt the other person to whom we love most. But life has its
own way of teaching, it put you again and again in the similar situation until
you won’t able to deal with such ones. We are human beings we not only made
mistakes we do blunders but still if there is any scope of improvement you see
then we need to keep our faith back and try to make things work. Why am
I saying all this thing today is because people have habit of blaming others in
such a way they show that they are blaming themselves all the times but they
didn’t realize by doing such things they affecting the lives of the people who
love them. By doing such things what people lose is the credibility, confidence,
trustworthiness initially which leads to more difference and disputes and
ultimately quieting.
Today society lacks on things like patience, understanding others point
of view, love and affection towards people who cares for you. What we are
focusing on is the materialistic life, temporary feelings. Due to easy
access of internet we live in a virtual world and made ourselves isolated by
disconnecting with people in real as a result what we becoming is more aggressive,
impatience, depressed, self-obsessed & isolated. We are degrading our
values to stay in our own made fantasy cocoon. As a result, we make decisions
on which we regret in future.
We humans have habit of living in past and judging people as per our
past experiences or by the mistakes they do. But what is correct approach being
to overlook some of the differences and give opportunity to other person If
they want to change or correct the things which might get destroyed.
There
are a lot of mythologies, ideologies, literature, books, articles, journals etc
is available all says one thing in common i.e. “To
live happy and peaceful life with people who loved you might be you fight with
them, times when they might hurt you and sometimes people do something which
you never expect then to do or say but what is most important here in such
situations if you find that person realized his/her mistake than definitely you
should give them a chance to make things works as they are in normal way”. But
humans have tendency to enjoy feeling of self-pity, sympathy, feel weaken, broken,
feel distrust, depressed and get detected with all those things and people once
who matters you most. We can’t live in fear, uncertainties, regret, risk,
compromises and things which are not matching our ethics, values and
principles. But here again I want to say you all if anyone hurts you due to any of this points by their words or action
and realized that they done wrong to you want to correct what they have messed
up so at least give them a fair chance to do so. By doing this you surely get
back what you think you lost.
Here are few suggestions in point
format to overcome such disturbing situations and enjoy peaceful life:
1. The
moment you think of quitting, thought about why you started.
2. Don’t
be in hurry to make commitment which you don’t able to keep in future.
3. Have
patience everything will fall according to you only if you are true to
yourself.
4. Have
faith in God.
5. Plan,
Act, Correct and Control over your unwanted thoughts and actions.
6. Focus
on happiness of not only self but also about people who cares for you specially
the loved ones.
7. Stay
focused on one thing at a time.
8. Life
is in transition mode all the time because every time you make a decision your
life changes.
9. Forgive
mistakes in relationships have faith and trust in other person as the way you
have in them prior to the mistakes.
10. If
you are not sure of anything say it loud and clear.
11. Whatever
it is i.e. job, business, love, relationship anything has trust and confidence
in your loved ones.
12. Anger
destroys everything, we say so many things which we never ever mean to say or
act as per that but unknowingly you hurt the other person so bad that they don’t
even want to look back in a same way as they use to so.
13. Don’t
focus on negative people around you might be anyone from your family, friend or
relatives or any acquaintances.
These points look like very easy
and known to everyone but when it comes to implement in our own lives we never
ever follow them.
I ask you all if someone who is
very important to you breaks your trust in some or the other way and later realized
that they have done which they even never want to do, after realizing if they want
to reconcile and wanting to make things normal as they are. Shall we give them
a chance or not!
