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| What to do when you stuck in life |
Very few people have the courage and right attitude to
handle such situations which usually general people not able to manage. Here in
this article I am going to give you very practical solutions for such kind of
problems professionally and personally. I start with professional points then touch
personal ones.
When we are stuck in these types
of situations, very first thing we loss here is our mental peace which is the
root of all the following points. Initially,
you feel like what rubbish is all this solutions; well it is a usual reaction
when you are angry, frustrated, confused, disturbed. Keeping your cool in adverse situation makes you to take right decision depending upon situations.
I am trying to cover very big
issues which everyone faces at many instances in his/her life. Although, we all
know that we can discuss long hours on each point which I am sharing with you,
but what I am going to do in this article is preciously sum-up with solutions
on the problems. So to make it simple let’s discuss issues point wise:
1.
If
you think you did education, where you are not at all interested:
It is one of the
biggest problems with the kids who are at the verge of joining college for
graduation, post graduation or any institute for any vocational courses.
Situation arises with all the joining formalities when done and they start
studying the course and found that they entered into wrong domain. Now what? It
is very big question in the minds of students this situation is still exists
when we say we are living in a world of internet full of information.
What my take on
this is having courage and confidence to move ahead and complete the course, it
is better trying to convince your parents and do start doing course you are
really interested. Do self-analysis and study your own behavior and skills you
have and made decisions. Initially, you may have to face bit of troubles from
family members but trust me guys this troubles are nothing in-front of the real
troubles you face when you start doing job. Because of this problem Indian
youth is now become literate and not knowledgeable. If you find the
problem face it now when it is small rather making them big you further give
birth to below all problems.
2. Don’t know what is your passion:
India is the
youngest nation but even though our education system is still running on old
concepts, definitely we need changes in the system but that is not in our
hands. So let’s focus on things in our hands. To find your passion in life you
have to accept the fact that it is not a one day activity. It is a process where you need to analyze your knowledge, skills, ability,
perceptions and beliefs, hobbies. Below are some suggestions:
a.
Read books on successful people, business,
inspirations etc.
b.
Try to get in touch with people who are at peak
of their career. Ask guidance from them & not every people around you.
c.
Spend quality time on internet don’t just see
videos only rather gather knowledgeable information of successful people.
d.
Whatever you are doing in your life do it with
full energy and learn from it.
e.
Try to develop vision in life and you come to
know passion follows.
3.
If
you feel like you are into wrong job:
First of all let
me congratulate you on this fact that at least you know that you are in wrong
job. Many people I spooked with are still didn’t realized that they need a
change to make a change. But accept the fact you are getting salary from your
current job so prove your work even if you don’t like it. So now let’s discuss
about solutions on which you can work upon are:
a.
Never do cheating with you bread and butter
because by doing this you cheat on yourself only.
b.
Does rigorous searching for the job you want to
serve.
c.
Try to search job through references, through
job portals and social media like LinkedIn.
d.
Always leave the job with proper exit
formalities.
4.
Feels
you are lacking skill-sets:
When we do self
analysis i.e. SWOT you will get solution on what skill sets you are lacking for
the job or business you want to do. So below are some suggestions to sort it
out:
a.
If its technical skill learn it, but make a note
it has to relate with your previous education and expertise you already have.
b.
Basic skills like know how to work on MS Office Excel or facing customers or how to do sales effectively or drafting emails
c.
Learn something totally new not at all related
to your field, when you have time and stability in your current profession.
d.
Learn those skills which you can able to
monetize once you learn them.
e.
Be smart in learning; don’t learn just for the
sake of learning.
It is also a
very big problem when all your money, energy, resources everything you invested
in a business and finally come to know that it is not your cup of tea. What to
do now read below points:
a.
Check you are making profits or struggling with
losses. If later is the case then you had to make calculations on the amount of
loss you can bear in monitory terms and non-monitory terms.
b.
Think about it, your business is not-really your
cup of tea or you stuck in some temporary situation which you think you can’t
resolve. Don’t make permanent decisions based on temporary situations.
c.
If you are clear with the point (b) in mind then
start preparing exit plan from the venture and book the loss soon don’t waste
time in thinking if you close everything late you can recover losses.
d.
Whatever is the amount of loss just book it in
current situation only. If we delay it, we increase our losses.
e.
Never-ever loss self-confidence, failing
in one venture doesn’t means you won’t succeed in other ventures.
f.
Have courage to bear the pain which is temporary
& always take calculated risk when you start something new
6.
Feels
financial stress:
Because of the
entire above factors one thing you definitely face is the financial stress. How
to overcome it lets discuss:
a.
If you are student and taking money from parents
for the expenses:
i.
Minimize all your expenditures on recreation and
pleasures.
ii.
Focus on the career and visualize future as it
helps you to bear the initial pain.
iii.
Join internships with companies where you will
get paid while you learn along with study.
iv.
Make plan and follow rigorously and avoid all
distractions like friends, entertainment, travel etc.
b.
If you are into job which you don’t like:
i.
Firstly continue with whatever job you are into.
ii.
Start searching new opportunities through
various sources as discussed above.
iii.
Getting new job is probably easy when you
are working with anywhere than left the current job and then search for new ones
is pretty tough.
iv.
Surround yourself with positive people who
encourage you, don’t spend time with negative people.
v.
Don’t listen what others say to you just focus
on what you want to do.
c.
If you are into business:
i.
Focus on revenue generation sources and cost
sources rigorously.
ii.
Prioritize the things do first important for
survival and success of your business.
iii.
Stop thinking what others think of you. Your
problems are different from them so they won’t understand.
iv.
Think like an entrepreneur and focus on why you
started your current business and keep working on the issues.
v.
Have a mentor, you will recover fast.
Let’s come to the personal front
now, below are the situations we usually try to avoid, ignore or try to act in anger
and in this way we create more odd situations. Let’s begin:
1.
Stuck
with wrong life partner:
In today’s time
where we want everything instantly on our figure tips, what we lacking because
of this is patience. All points here are universal and applied for both men and
women. We are becoming so much impatient with situations where we have
differences with circumstances, people’s, thoughts, philosophies etc. we find
the easy route to exit. Let me tell you the fact, escape is the
easiest route we found in any situation in life.
a. If
you are with life partner you feel like you are with wrong person. So solution
what I am going to say here is pretty blunt, some feel offended but accept the
bitter truth and separate yourself from them.
b.
Close all legal formalities as soon as
possible because it will add mental burden on you and financial burden too.
c.
You need have to become selfish a bit here.
Separating with wrong partner doesn’t means that it is end of the world. “World
is so big” Think and understand it.
d.
Understand the fact, we are society and what
we do will become norms in society. Sometimes they are good sometimes bad, and
that’s why we break the norms of society from time to time. And nothing is
wrong in it.
e.
Understand your life is important so do some
constructive with your life and not trying to disturb other person life.
f.
Never take decisions based on greed,
negative emotions, financial superiority or inferiority complexes, what other
family members are saying etc.
g.
Decide on the basis of safety of life
primarily. And be rational and practical in decision-making.
h.
Accept that many a times in life you need to
take painful decisions which are necessary for making our future bright.
i.
If decided anything concrete make it a time
bound and act so.
While taking
decision on life partner definitely it is not a small decision yet its time you
need to think over it and put full stop when necessary to start accepting
something good in life. Like if we need fresh water from the
pipeline which is full of garbage so first you need to make clear the garbage
to get fresh water. Hope you understand!
2.
Not
comfortable with people (friends, relatives, colleagues) around you:
a.
In life not only in our friends, relatives,
acquaintances but in family as well there are people with whom we are not
feeling comfortable because of differences in thoughts, attitude, behavior etc.
These are the people to whom you won’t leave, so it’s better to keep distance
with them.
b.
Put a check on yourself too, you were over
reacting sometimes or reacting in a way which is not required that time.
3.
Facing
times in life, when no one including family is not supporting you:
It is very
common situation these days where lots of people are stuck in. This problem
usually originated because of instability in your career. So solutions here in
this situation are:
a.
Try to bring stability in your career.
Understand if inflow of money earned by you comes in continuously, it will
boost your confidence and this issue disappears.
b.
You won’t make happy to everyone, so rather
focusing to make everyone happy put yourself first in the list and acts so.
c.
Take charge of your life by taking
responsibilities and accept mistakes if made any & correct it at the
earliest.
d.
Never break contact with your family, stay in
touch with at least those members who have a little bit of empathy with you and
want to help you out with whatever mess you are dealing with.
e.
Try to connect with everyone emotionally; it
will help you to fight with so many negative emotions like anxiety, stress, depression,
loneliness etc.
f.
Don’t ever discuss your family life with your
colleagues, ask guidance and help from people whom you trust like very close
friends.
4.
Fighting
with negative self talk:
To fight with
this emotion is very crucial because it is the emotion which we give birth by
ourselves. Solutions are:
a.
Start meditating at least for 15 minutes a day.
b.
Focus on what you already have in life. Make a
list of it.
c.
Think on the solution aspect and not problem.
d.
Keep reading good books it will give energy to
mind to take vital decisions.
e.
Exercise regularly.
f.
Take deep breaths, eat healthy, keep smiling all
this will give you positive energy.
g.
Always keep saying to yourself “I
believe you”
h.
Connect yourself with nature. Smell the sand,
feel the air, feel the sun, see the beauty of nature and feel it. It will make
you happy.
5.
Confused
on how to balance professional and personal lives:
It is very
simple yet very tough for people to do. We all know the reasons where we can
make proper balance but we usually ignore or take things for granted.
a.
Plan your day properly (Personal time &
Professional time)
b.
Don’t get addicted to social media.
c.
Don’t get addicted to smoking, drinking etc.
occasionally is fine but if they start driving your actions then it is serious.
d.
Make to do list with deadline and you will see
how much time you manage to save.
e.
When you are with family give full focus on them
avoids taking professional commitments when you spend time with family.
f.
Prioritize family, work, friends and relatives accordingly 100% you can’t follow but to some extent you can and that some extent
makes a huge difference.
So these are
some of the troublesome questions, situations, issues, problems, fears we all face now and then
in life.
Start applying the solutions and I will assure you that the results you get by
applying this will give totally new positive dimension to your life where you feel
freedom, happiness, peace of mind, rational, hopeful, enthusiastic,
responsible, attractive, lovable personality with whom everyone wants to
associate with in their lives too.
In last but not the least you will sense
that life is very simple and you will fill yourself with full of gratitude.
Please share in
comment section how this article help you to come out of any problem you faced
in life, this will motivates others to handle their situations with help of
your experiences and with their wisdom.
Always be happy
in life and just believe in yourself…
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