How to Handle Failure:

How to Handle Failure

As people who are successful knows how to handle success. Similarly, if one gets failed in any point of time or situation we also need to learn the art of handling failure.

Failure is a part of life’s game. Generally, when anything not happened as per our plan, we consider it as a failure. If someone fails there are lots of factors sometimes which are in our control and sometimes beyond our control.

 If you analyze the pattern of your thoughts you will get to know that failure is nothing but the chain of your decisions which are not favorable for that particular situation, which leads to more such decisions.

When we realize that there is an error or a mistake most of the time we realize it pretty late when the damage is already happened.  

We need to understand the fact that “Whatever happened is happened, we can’t change that” we only learn lessons from that and move on. It is very important to study your failure and find loop holes which you were unable to rectify earlier.

In lives every one of us has an encounter with failure. “It doesn’t matter that you fall down, what matter is how soon and impressively you get back up.” It is very common that if people failed they get into trap of depression.

So here in this article you will find the ways on how to handle failure. These are very common and easy tips which one can follow. Let me make you aware of the fact all the below tips sounds very simple but when we a overcoming our failures, all these seems very hard to apply. Here in your mental toughness comes into existence. Let’s discuss in detail:  

1.       It’s OK, if you Failed:

Many people take too much stress if they have an encounter with failure. Take it in a positive way and focus your mental and physical energies towards the learning’s you learn from the incidence. Most importantly “If you failed accept it fast. The sooner you accept the sooner you make corrective actions.”

2.        Check what you Lose & what you still Have:

Once you come to know that failure happened just do your math and calculate your loss and what left. “Sometimes when we know that we lose so it is better to book a loss at that particular moment and never take long to book that loss, because as time passes your loss will also increase only and it increases exponentially.”

                               

3.       Have Confidence in Yourself:

Self-confidence is an ability which gives you power to fight with the odds and energy to become creative and innovative in adverse situations. Failure directly impacts on our self-confidence. Have faith in God, believe in your capabilities and honor your words. You see even in failure you find the way to success.

4.       Recheck your Priorities:

When you are dealing with failure you need to re-prioritize all your goals and targets professional and personal so that one can overcome failure soon. If you can’t reset your priorities you may stuck in situation where you have to bear huge losses on both fronts i.e. professional and personal.

5.       Analyze your Risk Bearing Capacity:

Once failure happens, people usually afraid to take risk again but the fact of the matter is that you have to analyze your risk taking capacity when you are struggling with failure too. There are uncertainties and doubts but still you need to do research and with full confidence and responsibility need to take decisions for betterment of your future. “Calculate risk and measure your abilities and act accordingly.”

6.       Focus on inflow of Money:

If you encountered with failure professionally you may suffer financial losses and may be inflow of money stops. This situation is pretty common for the startup entrepreneurs. You need to make arrangements for your alternate income sources as well. If rainy days come you can able to fight back. “Money is the biggest motivation to deal with adverse situation it gives you confidence and increases your risk taking capacity.”

7.       Plan a Comeback:

Usually, it is seen that once people have any failure or set back they stuck with the situation and never try to cop up with it in real. Problems and Failures is part of life and it comes again and again, they are always bigger than our capacities. You need to plan everything and act as per your plan. If you are not comfortable so take time and then make a comeback, but remember always make a comeback.

8.       Do what you Never did Yet:

When failure happens we get stuck because of which our creativity shrinks and fear rises at its peak. To deal with this you need to keep motivating yourself and have faith in your instincts and gut feelings. If any incidence occurs you have to think differently which you never did yet. Use available resources, information and other aspects to make any decision and always keep little scope for correction if needed.

9.       Be Consistent:

Failure make us depressed, frustrated, lazy, careless etc. to deal with this you need to involve yourself in activities like following your hobbies, passion take a long walk, exercise and keep yourself consistent in this activities, it will help you to improve your mindset gives you positive feeling for self and you will definitely get things done rationally.

10.   Don’t lose Focus:

If unfavorable situation occurs, primarily we lose our focus from our goal and start searching for alternatives to goals and not searching alternatives to deal with the situation.  To stay focused you have to keep yourself fit and healthy both physically and mentally. You can meditate, take deep breaths, eat fresh fruits and food, spend time with kids and old age people, perceive any hobby, admire the nature etc. All this will keep you alive with full of enthusiasm and mental peace.

11.   Spend time with Family and Close Friends:

When we met with failure the very basic thing we do is we disconnect ourselves not only from society but also from our near and dear ones. Family gives you courage and ray of hope when you not able to find direction in life. Always try to keep close bonding with family and friends because they are the pillars stand with you when no one else does.

12.   Ignore Self Negative Talks:

This is tricky, self negative talk is one of the most lovable activity people do even if they are doing good in life and achieve acumen in career. It happens because of over thinking and over analyzing things which are not exists and sometimes which are out of your control. It is the biggest challenge for humans to deal with. To make a concrete statement here let me tell you the fact “You never able to stop negative self talks what you can do is only ignore it by shifting your focus on positive.”  Save yourself not only from negative people around you but also from your own self destructive negative thoughts.

13.    Write a Plan and act as per that:

What’s done is done, you cannot change that, and it is fact, so accept it. If you lose everything, still you have something left in you which is “YOU.” Collect yourself, relax and then start new beginning with new day with new plan. Write plan on paper make strategies with priorities by keeping in mind what you want to achieve, and then rub your ass with full capacity and energy. Eventually, you see yourself where you think it as a dream. Be true to yourself and plan rationally.

14.   Move Slowly, but Never Stop:

Failure makes us negative with full of self doubts which resist us from doing action. If we stop doing action we start diminishing. Learn your lessons, change your approaches, alter strategies, stay in shape, and dream big, finally to achieve all this take actions. Never give up on situations just move on continuously even if it is slow. “Every person is struggling with his or her life in some or the other way, so never compare you with others.” It’s better to focus on self improvement.

“Failure is stepping stone in the path of success” you will find this line in various books and yes it is correct too. If we won’t fail we won’t learn. Success gives you name, fame, esteem, power but failure makes you humble, honest, fearless and makes you more mature i.e. you will evolved as a person which people dreamed off.