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| How to Handle Failure |
As people who are successful
knows how to handle success. Similarly, if one gets failed in any point of time
or situation we also need to learn the art of handling failure.
Failure is a part of life’s game.
Generally, when anything not happened as per our plan, we consider it as a
failure. If someone fails there are lots of factors sometimes which are in our
control and sometimes beyond our control.
If you
analyze the pattern of your thoughts you will get to know that failure is nothing
but the chain of your decisions which are not favorable for that particular
situation, which leads to more such decisions.
When we realize that there is an
error or a mistake most of the time we realize it pretty late when the damage
is already happened.
We need to understand the fact
that “Whatever
happened is happened, we can’t change that” we only learn lessons from
that and move on. It is very important to study your failure and find loop
holes which you were unable to rectify earlier.
In lives every one of us has an
encounter with failure. “It doesn’t
matter that you fall down, what matter is how soon and impressively you get
back up.” It is very common that if people failed they get into trap of
depression.
So here in this article you will
find the ways on how to handle failure. These are very common and easy tips
which one can follow. Let me make you aware of the fact all the below tips
sounds very simple but when we a overcoming our failures, all these seems very
hard to apply. Here in your mental toughness comes into existence. Let’s
discuss in detail:
1.
It’s OK, if you Failed:
Many people take
too much stress if they have an encounter with failure. Take it in a positive
way and focus your mental and physical energies towards the learning’s you
learn from the incidence. Most importantly “If
you failed accept it fast. The sooner you accept the sooner you make corrective
actions.”
2.
Check what you Lose & what you still Have:
Once
you come to know that failure happened just do your math and calculate your
loss and what left. “Sometimes when we
know that we lose so it is better to book a loss at that particular moment and
never take long to book that loss, because as time passes your loss will also
increase only and it increases exponentially.”
3.
Have Confidence
in Yourself:
Self-confidence is an ability which gives you power to fight with the odds and energy to become
creative and innovative in adverse situations. Failure directly impacts on our
self-confidence. Have faith in God, believe in your capabilities and honor your
words. You see even in failure you find the way to success.
4.
Recheck
your Priorities:
When you are
dealing with failure you need to re-prioritize all your goals and targets
professional and personal so that one can overcome failure soon. If you can’t
reset your priorities you may stuck in situation where you have to bear huge
losses on both fronts i.e. professional and personal.
5.
Analyze
your Risk Bearing Capacity:
Once failure
happens, people usually afraid to take risk again but the fact of the matter is
that you have to analyze your risk taking capacity when you are struggling with
failure too. There are uncertainties and doubts but still you need to do
research and with full confidence and responsibility need to take decisions for
betterment of your future. “Calculate
risk and measure your abilities and act accordingly.”
6.
Focus on inflow of Money:
If you
encountered with failure professionally you may suffer financial losses and may
be inflow of money stops. This situation is pretty common for the startup
entrepreneurs. You need to make arrangements for your alternate income sources
as well. If rainy days come you can able to fight back. “Money is the biggest motivation to deal with adverse situation it
gives you confidence and increases your risk taking capacity.”
7.
Plan
a Comeback:
Usually, it is
seen that once people have any failure or set back they stuck with the
situation and never try to cop up with it in real. Problems and Failures is
part of life and it comes again and again, they are always bigger than our
capacities. You need to plan everything and act as per your plan. If you are
not comfortable so take time and then make a comeback, but remember always make
a comeback.
8.
Do
what you Never did Yet:
When failure happens
we get stuck because of which our creativity shrinks and fear rises at its
peak. To deal with this you need to keep motivating yourself and have faith in
your instincts and gut feelings. If any incidence occurs you have to think
differently which you never did yet. Use available resources, information and
other aspects to make any decision and always keep little scope for correction
if needed.
9.
Be Consistent:
Failure make us
depressed, frustrated, lazy, careless etc. to deal with this you need to
involve yourself in activities like following your hobbies, passion take a long
walk, exercise and keep yourself consistent in this activities, it will help
you to improve your mindset gives you positive feeling for self and you will definitely
get things done rationally.
10.
Don’t
lose Focus:
If unfavorable
situation occurs, primarily we lose our focus from our goal and start searching
for alternatives to goals and not searching alternatives to deal with the
situation. To stay focused you have to keep
yourself fit and healthy both physically and mentally. You can meditate, take deep
breaths, eat fresh fruits and food, spend time with kids and old age people, perceive
any hobby, admire the nature etc. All this will keep you alive with full of
enthusiasm and mental peace.
11.
Spend
time with Family and Close Friends:
When we met with
failure the very basic thing we do is we disconnect ourselves not only from society
but also from our near and dear ones. Family gives you courage and ray of hope
when you not able to find direction in life. Always try to keep close bonding
with family and friends because they are the pillars stand with you when no one
else does.
12.
Ignore Self Negative Talks:
This is tricky, self
negative talk is one of the most lovable activity people do even if they are
doing good in life and achieve acumen in career. It happens because of over
thinking and over analyzing things which are not exists and sometimes which are
out of your control. It is the biggest challenge for humans to deal with. To make
a concrete statement here let me tell you the fact “You never able to stop negative self talks what you can do is only
ignore it by shifting your focus on positive.” Save yourself not only from negative people
around you but also from your own self destructive negative thoughts.
13. Write a Plan and act as per that:
What’s done is
done, you cannot change that, and it is fact, so accept it. If you
lose everything, still you have something left in you which is “YOU.” Collect
yourself, relax and then start new beginning with new day with new plan. Write plan
on paper make strategies with priorities by keeping in mind what you want to achieve,
and then rub your ass with full capacity and energy. Eventually, you see
yourself where you think it as a dream. Be true to yourself and plan
rationally.
14.
Move Slowly, but Never Stop:
Failure makes us
negative with full of self doubts which resist us from doing action. If we stop
doing action we start diminishing. Learn your lessons, change your approaches,
alter strategies, stay in shape, and dream big, finally to achieve all this
take actions. Never give up on situations just move on continuously even if it
is slow. “Every person is struggling with his or her life in some or the other
way, so never compare you with others.” It’s better to focus on self
improvement.
“Failure is stepping stone in the path of success” you will find
this line in various books and yes it is correct too. If we won’t fail we won’t
learn. Success gives you name, fame, esteem, power but failure makes you
humble, honest, fearless and makes you more mature i.e. you will evolved as a
person which people dreamed off.
